Nothing is worse than someone breaking your heart. To need somebody so badly and then to have to let them go is hard. And as we grow older, the more people break our hearts, the worse it can feel each time.
Broken hearts are depressing, embarrasing and difficult. Fortunately, heartbreak doesn't last forever.
Let yourself let go
In dealing with a broken heart, the first thing is to let go completely. If it was not meant to be, then just let them go, and trust that someone better is going to come along. If we go back to that person who broke our hearts, they will see us as nothing more than defeated, and we would risk embarassment. A good way to just let go is to resist the urge to return, and simply avoid calling them on the phone, emailing or contacting them otherwise.
Feel your heart
It's okay to feel bad. Take some time to feel bad. Take a walk by yourself, or listen to some sad music. There is value to every feeling, as every feeling teaches us something new about ourselves. Just as we savour being happy, we can savour being sad, knowing that the feeling won't stay with us forever. As the sun can't shine everyday, it can't rain everyday either.
Go and let it out
Talk to somebody about it. A close friend will let you vent all of your anger and frustration and will console you afterwards. If you keep all your anger and sadness inside, you might end up pitying yourself, and you could miss out on building deeper relationships with your friends.
Wait it out
Last of all, I want to share with you a short phrase that has always helped me in my times of grief, and that is 'time eases pain.' As time goes on we know 'today' will slip from us and move further and further away into the 'past.' And as each day passes by, the hurt will go away, little by little, until we don't even remember the pain at all.
Keep your eyes forward
The future is rushing towards us faster than we can comprehend, and if we keep our heads turned backwards, looking at the past, we will miss seeing everything that the future is bringing to us.
Tyrone is a student at Queen's University who finds that a part of his heart is dedicated to art on a chart. Copyright 2002 iamnext.com May not be used without permission.
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